God this is so on point. It felt weird to read it just because it's exactly what I've been feeling and not telling anyone (only my therapist) because I feel no one would understand. I'm now married, but my previous partner of 8 years passed away in 2017 and I too have been longing for the grieving days. Exactly as you described it. I've been feeling very ashamed of it and not sharing it with anyone, not even my therapist. That's why these newsletters are so important. This feeling that we are not alone even when we feel like we are.
I'm sorry I can't help you financially, my husband and I live in a room in a flat share in London and I really can't be a paying subscriber right now, but as soon as I can I'll be one because these newsletters have been a company to my troubling soul.
I don’t want to forget... all the sun filled glorious days. Meditating under my oak tree. Meeting all my new neighbors, they are all birds btw... and my new found art. Repurposing everything I have and creating beautiful art with it... warm recipes and epic Netflix series and documentaries... perfecting air fryer /instant pot recipes... sharing all my baked goods with neighbors, cooking for nurses, & sick friends and leaving painted rocks of inspiration at local hospitals .... gratitude 🙏
The one thing I hope people don’t let go of is their anger at the systems that got us into this mess in the first place. Since November, I’ve seen so many people get lulled back into complacency and it’s been extremely disheartening. I fear more of this as life returns to some sense of normalcy. The good things that came out of the quarantine are the first things the powers that be will try to snatch away from us. We have to stick together and say “hell no.”
Also, there's something so true of the nirvana lyrics... *I miss the comfort in being sad*- from the song Frances farmer will have her revenge on seattle... xoxo
What I miss already is spending time with my boyfriend. We have our own work lives but the last year he was off work for pandemic unemployment. So I miss the time we spent together ❤ we got to know each other even better. Learned more about how things will be as we are together. So, I just miss that.. I don't miss worrying about having the money to pay bills. Lol. I also miss having the time off to go to the shore and spend time with my dad. Its been tough since my mom passed away in early 2020. So spending time with dad was important and good for me.
I miss getting to spend time with my mom and sister, too, after my Dad's passing in May of last year. I very much look forward to getting to spend time with them (safely) in the near future. I hope you get to see your Dad and have some meaningful times together soon <3
I don't want to forget...how life slowed down... how important and special phone calls, facetime and zoom calls became between family & friends. Kissing my grandkids through our phones & ipads! How excited they became when they saw my face! Life was simplier and communicating became more precious.
I don’t want to go back to a life with no creating.
I don’t want to go back to busy days and pressure to ‘be productive’.
I don’t want to go back to fewer naps or faster days.
I don’t want to go back to taking travel, theatre and live music for granted.
I don’t want to go back to jeans and heels or make up.
Amen to all of these things!
God this is so on point. It felt weird to read it just because it's exactly what I've been feeling and not telling anyone (only my therapist) because I feel no one would understand. I'm now married, but my previous partner of 8 years passed away in 2017 and I too have been longing for the grieving days. Exactly as you described it. I've been feeling very ashamed of it and not sharing it with anyone, not even my therapist. That's why these newsletters are so important. This feeling that we are not alone even when we feel like we are.
I'm sorry I can't help you financially, my husband and I live in a room in a flat share in London and I really can't be a paying subscriber right now, but as soon as I can I'll be one because these newsletters have been a company to my troubling soul.
Oh Joana, don’t apologize. This comment was so lovely to read! Thank you for sharing your experience. ❤️
I don’t want to forget... all the sun filled glorious days. Meditating under my oak tree. Meeting all my new neighbors, they are all birds btw... and my new found art. Repurposing everything I have and creating beautiful art with it... warm recipes and epic Netflix series and documentaries... perfecting air fryer /instant pot recipes... sharing all my baked goods with neighbors, cooking for nurses, & sick friends and leaving painted rocks of inspiration at local hospitals .... gratitude 🙏
It sounds like you’ve spent this time in some really meaningful ways 💕
The one thing I hope people don’t let go of is their anger at the systems that got us into this mess in the first place. Since November, I’ve seen so many people get lulled back into complacency and it’s been extremely disheartening. I fear more of this as life returns to some sense of normalcy. The good things that came out of the quarantine are the first things the powers that be will try to snatch away from us. We have to stick together and say “hell no.”
Yes! This should be a giant wake-up call.
Also, there's something so true of the nirvana lyrics... *I miss the comfort in being sad*- from the song Frances farmer will have her revenge on seattle... xoxo
Yes!! Good call.
What I miss already is spending time with my boyfriend. We have our own work lives but the last year he was off work for pandemic unemployment. So I miss the time we spent together ❤ we got to know each other even better. Learned more about how things will be as we are together. So, I just miss that.. I don't miss worrying about having the money to pay bills. Lol. I also miss having the time off to go to the shore and spend time with my dad. Its been tough since my mom passed away in early 2020. So spending time with dad was important and good for me.
Oh I would miss all of those things, too. I’m so glad you and your dad have gotten to spend time together.
I miss getting to spend time with my mom and sister, too, after my Dad's passing in May of last year. I very much look forward to getting to spend time with them (safely) in the near future. I hope you get to see your Dad and have some meaningful times together soon <3
I don't want to forget...how life slowed down... how important and special phone calls, facetime and zoom calls became between family & friends. Kissing my grandkids through our phones & ipads! How excited they became when they saw my face! Life was simplier and communicating became more precious.
"Communicating became more precious." I love that. <3
Excellent article and analysis 👌