Sep 28, 2021Liked by Katie Hawkins-Gaar, Rebecca Coates
This is lovely, Katie.
The bit about being a former journalist and feeling the need to stay up-to-date really resonates with me. I had to quit working in the news because the news was too much for my heart. My friend (currently a journalist) said her therapist straight-up asked her, "Who needs you to be well-informed about anything going on outside of your beat?" No one will know or care if she isn't up-to-date on the latest climate news or war or other disaster, keeping tabs minute by minute. So why is she poisoning herself when she doesn't have the capacity for it?
That's been a freeing thing to keep in my pocket. Because how else can we love one another if we're constantly filled up with the negativity of the world?
Sep 29, 2021Liked by Katie Hawkins-Gaar, Rebecca Coates
I have found after losing my beautiful daughter just 18 months ago, my focus has become so small.
My interest and concern over world events is almost absent. Things that matter like getting up and taking my pup out in the morning, checking in with my children who lost their sister, facetiming my beautiful grandchildren (2) that lost their momma. I loved reading this Katie! I laughed & smiled!
I know there needs to be a balance and I will get back to that in time. But for now, it's family, healing and honoring the memory of my incredible, smart, strong & caring Health Care professional.
Oh Janet, this is beautiful. And I remember this feeling. For all of 2017 and most of 2018 I completely ignored the news. Like you put it, my focus had become so small in the face of grief. It sounds like you're doing a beautiful job of caring for yourself and your family, and honoring your daughter. Sending you so much love.
Sep 29, 2021Liked by Katie Hawkins-Gaar, Rebecca Coates
For me it is important to focus on both the small things and the larger issues in life. We need to b informed about world events but also focus on lighter things. There needs to b balance. Getting perspective on things & focusing on the things that really matter. We need compassion and understanding for others & their experiences.
You're absolutely right, Sarah! I find that by nourishing myself with friend and family time, my cup is more full to be able to better care and make a difference with larger issues.
Sep 28, 2021Liked by Katie Hawkins-Gaar, Rebecca Coates
Hi, Katie! This was so interesting to read, especially because last week I wrote about my take on Sally Rooney's latest novel. That's why I love books (and literature, generally!): They give you the freedom to interpret things the way you want. And isn't it lovely when a book comes to you just at the right time to clarify some of your inner struggles? I'm so glad that I discovered your newsletter, by the way. Great stuff in there :)
This is lovely, Katie.
The bit about being a former journalist and feeling the need to stay up-to-date really resonates with me. I had to quit working in the news because the news was too much for my heart. My friend (currently a journalist) said her therapist straight-up asked her, "Who needs you to be well-informed about anything going on outside of your beat?" No one will know or care if she isn't up-to-date on the latest climate news or war or other disaster, keeping tabs minute by minute. So why is she poisoning herself when she doesn't have the capacity for it?
That's been a freeing thing to keep in my pocket. Because how else can we love one another if we're constantly filled up with the negativity of the world?
What an enormously helpful perspective. Thank you for sharing, Ashley!
I have found after losing my beautiful daughter just 18 months ago, my focus has become so small.
My interest and concern over world events is almost absent. Things that matter like getting up and taking my pup out in the morning, checking in with my children who lost their sister, facetiming my beautiful grandchildren (2) that lost their momma. I loved reading this Katie! I laughed & smiled!
I know there needs to be a balance and I will get back to that in time. But for now, it's family, healing and honoring the memory of my incredible, smart, strong & caring Health Care professional.
Oh Janet, this is beautiful. And I remember this feeling. For all of 2017 and most of 2018 I completely ignored the news. Like you put it, my focus had become so small in the face of grief. It sounds like you're doing a beautiful job of caring for yourself and your family, and honoring your daughter. Sending you so much love.
For me it is important to focus on both the small things and the larger issues in life. We need to b informed about world events but also focus on lighter things. There needs to b balance. Getting perspective on things & focusing on the things that really matter. We need compassion and understanding for others & their experiences.
You're absolutely right, Sarah! I find that by nourishing myself with friend and family time, my cup is more full to be able to better care and make a difference with larger issues.
So true. Hits right with me. Thanks for your reply.
Hi, Katie! This was so interesting to read, especially because last week I wrote about my take on Sally Rooney's latest novel. That's why I love books (and literature, generally!): They give you the freedom to interpret things the way you want. And isn't it lovely when a book comes to you just at the right time to clarify some of your inner struggles? I'm so glad that I discovered your newsletter, by the way. Great stuff in there :)
Hi Teodora! I loved reading your review. I had some of the same observations. I'm so glad you found me! Always great to meet other Substack writers!