This one made me laugh cry :) I've had so many moments on that grief roller coaster but two always stand out for me. After my dad died, I remember, me and my sister at the funeral home saying to one another how it was interesting or odd (I don't remember the exact words) that everyone was crying so much. And it wasn't because we didn't understand the pain of grief. We were also devastated. But we looked at each other and said "well, that's not really him in there.... he's (and we both looked up toward heaven)" and then started cracking up. I'm sure it was an odd sight to others but ever since then, I look for those moments in times of extreme sadness. Another time, I will never forget, is immediately after my mom died, within hours of me calling two of my best friends in the middle of the night, they immediately hopped in the car and drove four hours to just be with me... not fuss, or tell me how to feel, just to be present.
There was the scallop casserole given in November - a month one usually cannot do scallops. Our priest came over immediately with communion which we we administered to each other, my husband and I, out on our deck overlooking the lake. After our 33 year old daughter died unexpectedly, we were flooded with cards, calls, visits, food, flowers two funerals. There was tangible love. I changed from that love. WE are changed forever. Her life gave us and others new meaning. She was a special light, and that light burns again, in a changed view of God and the world. Last autumn was a blur. This autumn, as I can now see nature, her light is everywhere.
This one reminded me of a few times my s/o made me laugh so hard and was just silly in what he said and he was the first person to get me to laugh after my mother died. In the movie Sex and the City, Carrie asks if she will ever laugh again after Big leaves her at the altar... and Miranda replies that she will when something is really funny. I always think of that moment when things seem that hard or I think of how I thought I'd never be OK again after my mom passed away.
This was a great read-- thank you for continuing to write and do the hard things because you are able to do the hard things-- you know why? Because you still believe in yourself and that's a wonderful thing.
I've had a morning of crying to Adele but I think it's time to pick up myself and get started on my day. Xoxo. Thanks for writing once again Katie. ♥️
Earlier this year I went through a miscarriage. Weeks later, after telling a friend, I received an unexpected call from a flower delivery service. My dear friend, from thousands of miles away, had arranged the most luscious bouquet to be delivered to my door. The flowers made me feel alive again, and so grateful for connections. Thanks for this, Katie.
This was helpful to me because my boyfriend's father just recently passed. He seems to be doing fine but we are in a long distance relationship. I will do what I can to ease his grief & give him some lightness. Allowing him to grieve in his own way. Giving him opportunities to remember. And sharing that with him. While also caring.
This one made me laugh cry :) I've had so many moments on that grief roller coaster but two always stand out for me. After my dad died, I remember, me and my sister at the funeral home saying to one another how it was interesting or odd (I don't remember the exact words) that everyone was crying so much. And it wasn't because we didn't understand the pain of grief. We were also devastated. But we looked at each other and said "well, that's not really him in there.... he's (and we both looked up toward heaven)" and then started cracking up. I'm sure it was an odd sight to others but ever since then, I look for those moments in times of extreme sadness. Another time, I will never forget, is immediately after my mom died, within hours of me calling two of my best friends in the middle of the night, they immediately hopped in the car and drove four hours to just be with me... not fuss, or tell me how to feel, just to be present.
There was the scallop casserole given in November - a month one usually cannot do scallops. Our priest came over immediately with communion which we we administered to each other, my husband and I, out on our deck overlooking the lake. After our 33 year old daughter died unexpectedly, we were flooded with cards, calls, visits, food, flowers two funerals. There was tangible love. I changed from that love. WE are changed forever. Her life gave us and others new meaning. She was a special light, and that light burns again, in a changed view of God and the world. Last autumn was a blur. This autumn, as I can now see nature, her light is everywhere.
This one reminded me of a few times my s/o made me laugh so hard and was just silly in what he said and he was the first person to get me to laugh after my mother died. In the movie Sex and the City, Carrie asks if she will ever laugh again after Big leaves her at the altar... and Miranda replies that she will when something is really funny. I always think of that moment when things seem that hard or I think of how I thought I'd never be OK again after my mom passed away.
This was a great read-- thank you for continuing to write and do the hard things because you are able to do the hard things-- you know why? Because you still believe in yourself and that's a wonderful thing.
I've had a morning of crying to Adele but I think it's time to pick up myself and get started on my day. Xoxo. Thanks for writing once again Katie. ♥️
As that old phrase goes, "It can't rain all the time."
It's been a tough year for me. Thanks for bringing me a smile this morning, Katie - delivered with a high-heeled shoe full of green M&M’s.
Earlier this year I went through a miscarriage. Weeks later, after telling a friend, I received an unexpected call from a flower delivery service. My dear friend, from thousands of miles away, had arranged the most luscious bouquet to be delivered to my door. The flowers made me feel alive again, and so grateful for connections. Thanks for this, Katie.
This was helpful to me because my boyfriend's father just recently passed. He seems to be doing fine but we are in a long distance relationship. I will do what I can to ease his grief & give him some lightness. Allowing him to grieve in his own way. Giving him opportunities to remember. And sharing that with him. While also caring.