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Terrell Johnson's avatar

I felt this big time as I read it earlier today. I keep thinking to myself, somebody someday should write a book about marriage called "The Way Marriage Really Is," especially about the first year or two. It's so hard! You fight, and there's times when you don't even really like each other that much. I don't know exactly why, but we pick up the message that we should pathologize that, when actually it's a natural part of moving in together and blending two lives. My wife and I fought for sure the first year or two we were married. Expectations are different, you're both adults who've had different rhythms in your life before you met, etc. And you're raising a child, which is one of the hardest, most demanding things you can do in life. I hope it doesn't dismiss what you're going through if I say, it does get better -- my wife and I recently celebrated our 10-year anniversary, and it's so much easier and smoother for us now than it was those first couple of years. It gets better ❤️

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Rennie Sloan's avatar

Love this so much! I've done the exact same thing but never had it framed like this. You have an uncanny knack for identifying our fears/habits/quirks and explaining why it's actually growth or good to do the thing we secretly thought was weird or shameful.

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