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I really enjoyed this post - it reminds me that self-compassion leads to more inner peace. And when I have more inner peace, I'm able to be more present, engaged, and, yep, happy!

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I'm so glad. Thanks for sharing, Adrian!

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Jun 19, 2022Liked by Katie Hawkins-Gaar

My adult son transitioned 10 months ago. I feel constantly tethered to grief BUT reading your posts are helpful and I’m going to start playing the good moments game. Thank you

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Sending you lots of love as you process a momentous change. Here's to many good moments to come.

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Absolutely. In this talk from last week Tara Brach talks a lot about this. She uses phrases like "gladdening our hearts" (I love that phrase) and she tells a story which ends with "don't let a terrifying future rob you of the love that's here" (I'm paraphrasing, I may not have gotten it exactly right). This one really helped me. https://www.tarabrach.com/nourishing-our-spirit/

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Thank you, Karen! Can’t wait to listen.

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Love this. I’m sticking the good thing game in my pocket for evening walks with my husband when we’re both too exhausted by the world to hold a real conversation.

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Yes! It’s perfect for walks. I hope you both enjoy it!

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May 31, 2022Liked by Katie Hawkins-Gaar

Thank you, that helped such a lot today.

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I’m so glad to hear that. ❤️

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Thanks for this life story. I am constantly on edge when I watch these things on TV. We are planning for baby and all these such scares me. Being an immigrant in this country, I also feel scared to voice my opinions. The response I mostly get is 'did not happen in your country?'.

In my whole life, I never heart someone shooting someone else for any reason unless it was a terrorist activity or a full blown crime scene between two people.

This is crazy and hard to live with. I am scared for so many things these days. What if there is a problem in pregnancy then what will hospital do? Will I gunned down walking on the street? How will I send our kids to school without the fear? I have no answers to any of these and then I get guilty of thinking about me and not about all those victims of the attacks.

So all in all, thank you very much for this article and of the game. Maybe next time, I can try plying it with my husband when I am overwhelmed.

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