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Mary Hutto Fruchter's avatar

Katie,

Your writing is really hitting me in the space that I’m in today, so thank you. Last week, when I told my therapist that I was finding so much joy through writing- that I had started a Substack and was pursuing publication, she asked me if I was perhaps doing too much? (Then, she mom guilted me by saying how my kids were only going to be around for so much longer...)

I was enraged by her comments and still am- I think our therapy relationship has run it’s course or rather plummeted off the cliffs-which isn’t great as I could probably use therapy.

Her comments were totally off base and steeped in patriarchy but the question about doing too much is sitting with me. I don’t know if anyone read last week’s Culture Study where Anne interviewed Laurel Braitman, but when Anne spoke about high achievement being a response to trauma, it kind of blew my brain up. I also loved that she said, she still works incredibly hard just for different reasons.

Katie, I love that you are so honest about the vacillation…the desire to grow something, to be validated and also…the questioning of what it’s all for, and if it’s too much or the right thing sometimes. I am with you and I am grateful.

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Lori's avatar

Sandberg herself admitted, after she lost her husband, that "leaning in" was a lot harder to do as a single parent. :) (I much prefer "Option B," the book she wrote with Adam Grant about grief and dealing with the curveballs that life throws us.)

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